There is no shame in finding this hard. You are learning a legal process in your spare time, about the thing that matters most to you, often while dealing with someone you no longer get on with. A few habits make a real difference.
Give the case a box
Literally, if it helps. Keep everything in one place and work on it at set times. When the time is up, close the box. The case will still be there tomorrow.
Write things down to get them out of your head
A running list of “things to check” stops ideas circling at 3am. Note them, then deal with them at your next session.
Ask: does this help the judge decide?
When you are angry about something the other parent has done, it is tempting to put it in. Ask whether it helps the tribunal answer one of the issues. If not, leave it out. It weakens the parts that matter.
Use the help that exists
Citizens Advice, Support Through Court and others exist for exactly this. Asking for help early is a sign of good judgement, not weakness. See get help.
Look after the basics
Sleep, food, exercise and people who care about you. They are not optional extras. A tired, isolated parent makes worse decisions.
If things feel too much
Talk to your GP, or call Samaritans free on 116 123 at any time. More support is listed in looking after yourself.
